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How They Met-

Paloma and Robert met through a mutual friend named, Shawna.  They were in college and Paloma invited Shawna to her 20th birthday party.  

Shawna showed up with Robert and a few other friends. Nothing really happened that night but Robert was one of the last people to leave the party.  Paloma shared with me giggling, "It's funny because I have a picture of us with me, after a few too many drinks, with a blanket and my legs plopped over him." 

Paloma and Robert didn't really keep in touch, maybe a few messages over Facebook but nothing serious. 4 years later Shawna invited Paloma out to downtown San Diego and there Robert was!

Paloma said, "I remember I kept looking at him out of the corner of my eye, I wanted to talk to him but was too shy and nervous. Shawna and the rest of the group wanted to go to another bar and I don't remember who suggested it.  Probably him because I was looking fiiiiiiiiine that night! Joking but not really!"
But instead, Paloma and Robert stayed behind. They sat in a intimate corner of the bar and just talked.  

Robert thought he had Paloma's phone number from when they met in college so he didn't ask for her number.  Fast forward to the following week and Paloma gets a message on Facebook from Robert saying he had an interesting conversation with the owner of my old phone number!

 A few months later he asked me to be his girlfriend at Disneyland, December 17 2011. 


About the proposal- 

He proposed exactly five years from the date he asked Paloma to be his girlfriend. December 17 2016.

Paloma explained, " I was actually kinda bummed going into our anniversary weekend because a few weeks prior I had asked him what he wanted to do for our big five year.  He told me that he had told our good friend Sam that we would go out with him to celebrate his 30th birthday on our actual anniversary date!  I was like whhhhhhat?!?! You do know it's our five year right... and we're gonna celebrate someone's birthday?!" 

She said, "I was a little ( aka a lot lol) pissed, but he was like don't worry I have something cool planned on Sunday!"

Paloma shared with me that she thought, "Okay, I guess it's not that big of a deal to celebrate the next day and I knew he would have something really cool planned because he usually does!"

 In their great group of friends, birthdays are a big deal.  Especially now that everyone is turning 30.  So a bunch of their friends were flying in or coming into town.  So Paloma didn't think anything of it.

Paloma and Robert met up with everyone at the Nolen in downtown San Diego.  Everything is chill and they all were having a good time.

All of the sudden Robert clears his throat and everyone quiets down.  Paloma said to me, " I was like oh shoot it's happening!"

At the proposal Robert told Paloma that he had been planning this night for several months and had everyone come into town so that they could be part of the surprise!

Paloma adoringly shared with me, "One of my favorite things about his proposal was when he told me that love wasn't about finding someone to live with but someone you can't live without." (Talk about a smooth operator Robert!)

 Then he got down on one knee and asked the big question! Of course Paloma said YES!

Paloma said, "Funny thing was, I was so nervous and I didn't know what hand the ring was supposed to go on so I gave him the wrong hand!  Now that I look back there are so many clues that he was planning to propose that night but I had no idea until he started talking - he got me good! We spent the rest of the night celebrating with 15 of really good friends."

A Little Love Note From, Lacey O.-

Paloma + Robert,
  I enjoyed our engagement session at Balboa Park in San Diego.  It was great meeting Shawna (shoutout to you Shawna for making all of us laugh constantly) and your sweet little fur baby, Bonita.  I'm so extremely happy for you both.  You two go together like cookies and milk!  Cheers to your love, success and many more years together.

With BIG Love,

- Lacey O.


My Interview on Becoming Love Project

My interview on the Becoming Love podcast went live! 

Tamala Baldwin, of Soul Kisses TV and the Becoming Love Project and I had such a blast and I am THRILLED to be a part of this newly launched podcast that focuses on creating heaven on earth by going within.

I speak about my child abuse growing up and moving out of your comfort zones to create the life you truly want. There are so many people that experience trauma and as a result, may lose their way. During this segment, I share about my child abuse and I offer some straight, unfiltered, bad ass advice to get people going again. 

Give it a listen to learn more about answering moving beyond the past to create the life you deserve.


What She Said To Me At My Going Away Party...

She said to me at my going away party friends threw for me,
  "Lacey, I feel like you JUST got your feet planted in the ground here in San Diego. I'm a little concerned...  Aren't you afraid you are going to have to start all over again in D.C. or it won't go as well?"

My first thought was, WTH.  Who says that to a person who is having big changes happen in their life? And what was up with the backhanded compliment? JUST got my feet planted in the ground? Um, no.   
The funny thing about it was I planned in advance and had business already set up in D.C. well before my move.

 But then I realized instantly she was a person who was projecting her own fears, insecurities, incapabilities and self-made limitations unto me.  In that moment I felt really sorry for her.  Not irritated. Just sorry for her.  What a miserable mentality to have in your mind and spirit... and that mentality is by choice, mind you.

When people try to prick you like a cactus with their words and negativity, trying to cultivate a culture of fear, self doubt, worry in you,  IGNORE IT.  It is a reflection of where they are at internally and their self-made limitations are just that, THEIRS. It has nothing to do with you.  So chuck up a deuce, wish them well and keep it moving.  You have a much bigger focus.